Sometimes I wonder about fate. People all my life have told me that there is someone out there for me. Well, I used to believe that was a big lie. But then that all changed.

Dec. 30, 1997

On this day, My church... the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints... better known as the mormons, was sponsoring a dance for my area. It was our annual holiday dance. I guess that the truth of the matter was that I really didn't want to go. I had been going to church dances for the last three and a half years of my life, and I had never found what I was looking for at any them. I had never found a girl who was truly interested in me. I looked very dilligently, but I never did find anyone. So that's why I didn't want to go. For some reason, though, something inside of me told me to go. It seemed to say, "If you don't find anyone this time, then you can stop going... but go this one last time." Well, I decided to go...

The dance was going as it usually does... everyone is having a great time. I was not nearly so happy. No girl there seemed to be paying any attention to me. I thought that this dance would be just like all the others. Well to my surprise a girl asked me to dance. She looked very familiar, but I didn't know who she was exactly. I was very amazed, because she just came over, and asked me to dance. It seemed to be a good sign, but I didn't want to raise my hopes... girls had asked me to dance before, and my hopes had been crushed before. While I was dancing with her I felt very comfortable. I felt like I was in a place that was meant for me. Something just seemed right. I didn't know it then, but I know it looking back. This was a very different experience than I had ever had before.

That song got over, and for some reason I felt good enough with this girl, that I took it upon myself to try and teach her to swing dance. She didn't seem to be able to catch on, so I gave up. It was fun, though.

Later that night, my friend Bonzai and I were sitting in one part of the gym where this was being held. A slow song came on, and all of a sudden this girl I had been dancing with came up to us, and began explaining that some guy was stalking her and that she wanted me to dance with her so that this guy couldn't. I tried to get my friend to dance with her, but eventually I gave in, and we danced. I was kinda happy to be dancing with her... I got that same feeling I did before - the comfortable I'm supposed to be where I am feeling. The feeling was strong enough that it made me say something that was very out of character (see, usually I'm quite shy... ). In the middle of our dancing, I just blurted out "Would ya like to go out sometime?" Surprisingly enough, she said, "sure". Not only that, though, she did it with a smile. I was happier in that moment than I had been in a very long time.

Later that evening she gave me her phone number, and let me just say, that was the beginning of something beautiful, something that only happens in movies. It was the beginning of an almost picture perfect relationship that continues on today. It continues long distance, but the distance has brought us closer to each other than we had ever thought possible.

All because of that dance, I believe in fate. I believe that each of us has a destiny that is intertwined with someone else's, and I believe that we just have to be in tune and we will be guided to do those things that will lead us to that person. I believe because at a dance that I didn't want to go to, because of a phrase I said that I normally wouldn't have, and because of the beautiful relationship that I have had that I met the woman of my dreams, and my best friend. If anyone tells you that fate doesn't exist, you tell them they are wrong; because my fiancee and I are living proof.

-Trev

P.s.- go to her website. There's a picture of her. It's old (like a year and a half years old or so) but that's okay.